When we came up with the theme of giving and sharing for December I was quite taken a-back by how surprised I was with this idea. It seemed like such an obvious yet forgotten theme for December. Here I was, busily thinking of themes to counter-act the effects of Christmas-hub-bub I forgot the true meaning of this time. To give and share.
How ridiculous, that we’ve come so far from this. Overwhelmed by the stress of consumerism. Rushing about like headless chickens we’ve forgotten why we’re out buying presents in the first place!
To help us remember the gift of giving lets take a moment to contemplate Rose. This beautiful flower, so elegant, is a symbol of love. Love for ourselves and love for our fellow human (or animal or plant!). Medicinally, Rose is a flower used to help those suffering with grief, shock, and heart ache. It is a herb which helps to cheer the heart. The scent alone is comforting. I used to wear the neat essential oil on my clothing when I had my last painful break-up. It helped me pick up the pieces. When looking at the delicate rose petals it’s hard to remember the sharp spiky stem beneath. This shows that it takes strength to be delicate. Strength to be vulnerable.
In giving to others we make ourselves vulnerable. Vulnerable to their judgement. What if they don’t like it? What if you’ve made a bad choice? Rose helps us remember it’s ok to be disappointed. It’s ok to not get it right. The gift of giving lies in the intention. The fact that you carefully chose something with love for the other person. Whether they like it or not should not be as important as this.
If it is then the whole point of Christmas has been missed. The person who misses the point of Christmas needs some Rose for sure. To remind themselves to receive graciously and to remember to have gratitude. You might wanna practice some Loving Kindness yourself too. I know I find myself needing this over Christmas!
So settle down with a cup of Rose tea this christmas and don’t forget to practice loving-kindness.
By Natasha Richardson
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